Co-parenting after breaking up:

Choosing to end a relationship with someone with whom you have made a child can be quite a complicated process. Not only must you navigate issues associated with any breakup, but now there are custodial issues, financial issues, and issues related to how each parent will parent the child. Furthermore, one of the biggest benefits of ending a relationship is not having to continue to interact with your ex, but now that is off the table as well. Sadly, it is not uncommon in these situations for one person to use the child to negatively affect the other. Parents who choose to use a child to deliver messages or to spy will create a confusing and stressful situation for that child. Using your child as a weapon may hurt your ex, but it will hurt your child more and will lead to emotional issues for your child.  Remember the wise words that one must love their children more than they hate their ex. Also, never underestimate the value of just not being a jerk.